9 What’s so great about your lover, fair lady?...
13 ...His voice, his words, warm and reassuring.
v16 His words are kisses, his kisses words.
Everything about him delights me, thrills me
through and through!
through and through!
As I read through this description of what made the man so great to this woman much of it was his appearance. So I can't do a whole lot to change that but it must have been good enough at one point to set the hook--ha!
But v13 and v16 both caught my eye. Are my words warm, reassuring and like kisses to Gina? Sometimes maybe, but others times no. She has told me I give her a hard time too much, I make fun of little things which may be meaningless but probably sting (and I don't take it so well in return by the way). So I have tried to change, but yet she on occasion will say something that makes me realize I've done it again. I joke that its my love language to pick on her since I don't seem to know how to stop, kind of like giving guys a hard time--I don't bother doing to people I don't like.
But that is a bad answer. I know if she is willing to point it out at all its probably not until its gone too far and I always feel bad but the horse is out of the barn by then. So I am going to put more focus on this because I want my words to be warm and reassuring like kisses to Gina, I really want everything about me to delight her as it says and I'm sure that's not the case right now. So if you read this Gina, I have been and will continue to try to be a better man for you.
not intended to be sappy, just real.
knut
the same verse caught my attention. I don't necessarily poke at Kim, but it seems that our entire house needs the warm reassuring words from me right now. The "entire house" starts with the relationship between Kim and I....we set the tone.
ReplyDeleteI'm with ya on this one. We can either lead our families/marriages in a Godly manner, or we can escalate the tensions and easily push the button of those around us.
I know I went more family than you...but, it still seem relative to me.
peace out
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ps. it takes a real man to see his faults. I commend you on what you wrote today. Maybe faults isn't the right word...but when our bad tendencies are magnified by our spouses perception of them...it can lead to hurt feelings. Kudos!, Knudsen
I like your take too, and yes its right to describe these as faults. I feel a sense of accountability to you to write the ugly not just the good. If its in my mind I'm trying to type it, sometimes easier said than done. But I think putting it out there is one way I can try to improve myself.
ReplyDeletethanks for being my partner in this bible journey